Have you had that feeling of being fearful about losing your job? And that thought led to more fear of survival itself? Who will take care of my kids? Who will pay for the mortgage?
The worry simply adds on. And these all feel so real. Then you start to feel miserable, lonely, empty inside. And all that panic, sickness, and confusion kicks in that make you feel more negative, exhausted and depleted in your energy levels.
Unfortunately, this gives way to more fear and negativity, and you start to say to yourself silently: you are not good enough; you are not worthy or you have no divine guidance – as you start to lose all hope.
Does this lead to searching for answers on the internet as to what to do? (Perhaps that is why you are here.) Navigating through your fear is truly a blessing and is the purpose of this post.
This post is will help you get past your fears and guide you to what to do as we will delve into:
- How fear can be a blessing in disguise?
- Why fear fear?
- What to fear and what not to fear?
- How to find your lessons when you are in a state of fear?
- How does fear limit us?
Fear accelerates Spiritual Growth: Question 1: How fear can be a blessing in disguise?
Think of fear as a bridge that you need to pass through. But we remain on that bridge for a very long time. The bridge is the pathway that leads to a realization of your great lessons learned on the other side.
If you are here to learn how to overcome the fear of inadequacy, then you will be placed in a life story where you may feel that you don’t have enough money before you can quit your job.
But the blessing lies in trusting and believing that you have enough money to survive. This fear motivates you to look for an alternate life. It steers you into finding a job that pays less, but you get to work fewer hours and still provide for your family.
But we simply don’t trust the divine plan because we are very fearful. The question of what if keeps coming to our mind. What-ifs are illusions. Hold the what-ifs by the horns and move out of your comfort zone.
So instead of sticking with our fear and not letting it go, you should fear fear so much that you start to let it go and surrender.
Honestly, I repeat, we should fear fear itself, and strive to do our best and leave the rest so His grace flows freely.
Fear accelerates Spiritual Growth: Question 2: Why fear fear?
Fear brings a profound sense of understanding and realization about the nature of your karma or actions in transit. When you are being fearful about an event, person, or a thing, you know deep down inside why but instead of resolving it, you suppress it or try to escape from it.
When the fear reaches a tipping point, it means that you are not in alignment with the divine will. Fear was a signpost that there was something that you were not doing correctly.
This is why you must know yourself and be yourself. When you are being your authentic self, and doing your authentic purpose for what you are here to do, the fear simply loses its grip on you. I teach that in my 1-1 coaching sessions.
There is much joy, love, beauty in knowing yourself and being yourself. It is easy and comes naturally. Try it with your kids, and wife for a day. Look in their eyes and simply feel grateful for what you have. The fear will go away.
Fear accelerates Spiritual Growth: Question 3: What to fear and what not to fear?
Fear is an illusion. The thoughts that run in your mind are just that, thoughts. You can easily bring it into form by taking fearful actions. But you have been doing that and are now paying for the consequences. Your thoughts need to be pure, positive, optimal, and loving.
What to fear? You must be fearful to have an attitude of fear. Ask yourself: how does it feel to be fearful? Why am I doing the things that I am fearful of?
What not to fear? Don’t fear your thoughts? Transcend them. I teach that in my coaching sessions.
Fear accelerates Spiritual Growth: Question 4: How to find your lessons when you are in a state of fear?
By deep-diving into asking meaningful questions that help you reason out your fear. Ask yourself: why is it happening to me?
- If it is work: what is so fearful at work?
- If it is your environment: what is so fearful about the environment?
- If it is your relationship: what is so fearful about the relationship?
I wrote many blog posts on spiritual life lessons that we are here to learn. Those are a great starting gate. Read them to see what resonates with you the most. Then take appropriate actions or reach out to me for guidance.
There are various lessons that you learn as a courageous soul such as boldness, love, respect, unconditional love, forgiveness, peace, balance, comfort zone, surrender, letting go, gratitude, and of course fear of many things.
With a limited mind, we expand ourselves and evolve through various life lessons build on fear. You just need to be conscious enough to allow, accept and embrace the changes.
Fear accelerates Spiritual Growth: Question 5: How does fear limit us?
Fear limits our capacity to think outside our mental construct. Fear is born of lack of something. It limits us from thinking that we don’t have enough. That we are limited.
It also makes us feel that life has no purpose. That there is no reason to live. It is better to commit suicide. It is a trickster. It robs us of living our purpose-driven life.
On the brighter side, it makes us feel that life is meaningless which means that it is time that we start to look for the meaning in life, and not to end our life.
A meaningful life is aligned with our divine purpose and plan and what we are here to do. The mind needs to be detoxed off fear so that we can think, and act clearly. So fear is good until it is not. It can even kill your appetite for meditation. Once you have learned your lessons, you need to move on.
But many stick to it. Repress it and deep down inside feel guilty, depressed, disappointed and then play the blame game – so and so is bad. No one is bad. It is our perception that needs a transformation. As a transformation coach, I help you find your shining side!
Fear helps us realize that we have set an upper limit that affects not only how we live by doing but also by being. That is, by being fearful and by doing meaningless work or being in an environment that is fearful.
Ultimately, when the quality and quantity of trust and surrender will increase and outweigh the quantity of fear, then you will transcend fear.
But you need to work at it, not escape it, by giving yourself plenty of time to slow down your thoughts until you can take care of yourself and disregard outside comparisons and competitions that deplete your energy.
From my experience, once you have completely surrendered you will be divinely guided and experience firsthand how fear can accelerate spiritual growth leading to true spiritual awakening.
So are you willing to move past your fear? Do you have what it takes to move in a meaningful direction in life? Are you ready for a quick discovery call?
Fear can accelerate spiritual growth. It brings a profound sense of understanding and realization about the nature and lessons of your karma. We need to reason out why we are fearful instead of escaping from it.
Although fear makes us feel that life is meaningless, it also helps us realize that it is then time to start looking for the meaning in life, and not to end our life.
Ultimately, when the quality and quantity of trust and surrender will increase and outweigh the quantity of fear, then you will transcend fear, will experience divine will at play firsthand, and witness how fear can accelerate spiritual growth leading to true spiritual awakening.
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