Category: Spiritual Life Lessons

“The intense rules of the game of self-love involve: having healthy boundaries, creating a discipline for balance, nurturing self-compassion, growing in gratitude, evolving in self-worth, being mindful of self-care. It is a courageous hero’s journey. All you need to do is to let go and surrender even more – so you always win.”

Manprit Suri

All of the labels and titles in life that we call ourselves are not our self. We are unconsciously attached to it with force. Our five senses create this forceful illusion of unconscious conditional attachments to earthly 3-dimensional existence. And eventually, we become unbalanced, exhausted, burned out, and remain a victim or slaves of it. 

We assume that we are powerless without it. If you enter a challenge/game with no power, what kind of challenger are you? 

What is our power? Love. It is your divine power. It is your conscious power. Having a love relationship with yourself is the key to driving the divine power. 

As you awaken spiritually, you realize the power of self-love. Knowing how to channel your positive energy, power, or love consciously is the name of the game. 

In this post, we’ll delve into:

• What is Self-love?
• How to decondition self-love?
• What is Self?
• What are the criteria of teaching self-love?
• How to play the game of self-love?
• Can we play the game of self-love now?
• When is the right time to start self-love?

Self-Love: Question #1: What is Self-love?

Self-love means giving more attention and awareness to your own ‘inner’ power or self with compassion. Giving priority to your inner-being leads to your well-being. Doing so requires vibrating with a higher level of consciousness. 

• Self-love means being yourself, in love with yourself, being worthy of yourself. Being grateful for who you are, where you are, how you are!
• Self-love means pushing other priorities that do not serve to love you. Creating boundaries and saying no to things, people, processes, relationships, careers that you do not love and doing what you love. 
• Being with what you love may require isolation but may also mean balancing life the way you feel loved inside.
• It means going to places that you love and not going to places that you don’t love. 
• Loving your mind, your body, and your soul. Giving and receiving graceful vibrations to your thoughts, emotions, and physical body. Keeping and sustaining yourself in a higher state of happiness. Doing so requires being aware and away from any conditions. 

Self-Love: Question #2:How to decondition self-love?

Self-love can only happen in the absence of conditioning. The more you start to love yourself, the more deconditioning tends to occur. The many layers of the false sense of self begin to go away. 

Self-love strips away unconscious biases and the victim consciousness mentality caused due to comparisons, competitions, and conditions – weights on your soul-self. Such things only leave us with the symptoms of stress, anxiety, depression in the long run.

We need to dissolve our false self (not-self) to find the inner self. Only then can we truly understand our true selves and then experience the nature of self-love. 

The problem is we don’t quite remember what self-love feels like anymore. An even bigger problem is we have forgotten what self means. 

We have been busy becoming ‘not’ ourselves for decades and lifetimes that we have forgotten what it means to be ourself let alone love it. So we first need to come to terms with the definition of self itself!

Self-Love: Question #3:What is Self?

A self is beyond the terms we are given by our so-called society, relatives, and cultures. These terms are condition-naming limiting variables of our inner self that keep changing as we move across our timeline on this planet earth. 

There are various types such as dad, mom, brother, sister, grandmother, grandfather, religious titles, career titles, country titles such as citizens, aliens, etc. – a tiring proposition to remember them all. 

The real question is that are we the titles and labels? If so, then we wouldn’t exist if we didn’t have them? The titles did not exist before you started a career, had a baby, were married, when you were still in college, studying in school, were kids, an infant was still in the mother’s womb.  

These labels keep us tied here in competitions, comparisons only to create a divide among us humans – to belittle us if we don’t recognize them or achieve the many ambitions placed on us. Such living only distances us from our original self and makes us feel inferior. Why? Because it is a guilt game, not a game of self-love. 

Such a game is not worth playing. At least not anymore as it encourages corruption, self-hate, self-blame. It is a time of karmic settlement. We should consciously end such a game now. The challenge is that these titles are a necessary evil in our society. 

But unless your SELF hits rock bottom in life via life-changing traumas or events that trigger you to wonder if these things are what we are here for, you will never wake up to the reality. The traumas include mental illness, seizures, cancer, NDE or near-death experience, or anything that could trigger your spiritual awakening. 

It is after all these setbacks that you realize self-love is indeed a game worth playing. But how? What are the criteria?

Self-Love: Question #4:What are the criteria of teaching self-love?

Why teach? The best way to learn something is to teach it. You can only teach self-love when you have learned it yourself. Otherwise, your service to others will feel hollow from inside. 

To teach self-love, you must first reach a state in life where you feel a sense of emptiness, lack of something meaningful, something inadequate that gives birth to low self-esteem, lower vibrational frequency, unconscious living, and low confidence. Interestingly, this is the very state of our century currently. 

Many are reaching this tipping point or striving to unconsciously. It is the truth. And, it is also the criteria or an unconscious learning step towards self-love. That is, feeling miserable and hating yourself – by attaching to things outside of yourself and detaching from your inside self. 

Interestingly, you go through setbacks, unconscious self-hate, feeling not good enough, and floating in lower vibrations to ultimately wake up and rise, recognize, and realize the process of self-love. 

It is after you have distanced your outer self with your inner self far enough that you will come to realize your true self and start loving it. 

Self-love is a game worth playing and then teaching. But you will need courage for both as you will be challenged and stretched in all different directions. 

Simply knowing you are playing the game is a blessing in disguise that ultimately leads to increased awareness of yourself.

Self-Love: Question #5:How to play the game of self-love?

In my experience, self-love is a challenging but playful journey of self-compassion, self-worth, self-care, gratitude, courage, discipline, let-go, surrender, boundaries, balance. It’s quite an art of living away from the ordinary. It is a forgotten art. It is a game that requires playing with a different elevated level of consciousness.

I deeply contemplated my steps for playing this game after reading David Hawkins’s spectrum of consciousness levels. Then I created my own game of self-love to help trigger you.

This game is real and comes with a warning – it will transform you inside. It will elevate your consciousness. 

Take a few deep breaths and calm your mind and body. Be in the right environment of calm. Most of all, you need to permit yourself if you wish to play this game. If you are willing to play and are ready, then let us play now.

Self-Love: Question #6:Can we play the game of self-love now?

Yes. Read the steps below, and follow them carefully:

1. The first step is to admit that we don’t know how to play this game. To surrender to the fact that there exists a more conscious solution beyond what you think. To permit to the core of your being that there is a way to play this game. This level of empowerment comes with courage – to admit that you don’t know what you don’t know. Permitting self-love is an act of courage. Then affirming, “I love myself” should be a good starting point. Hold that thought and contemplate on it. 
2. The second step is to be willing to learn the art of self-love. To allow it to happen. Do not block it. To be teachable – to enable it to flow through you. To be willing to go beyond your limited self. To move past the ego voice of “I know” to “I am willing to know, learn and intent to trust.” Awaken to the possibility that there is indeed more to know than your limited mind can admit. Just trust, be hopeful, and feel positive in knowing that you are willing to learn. 
3. The third step is accepting the way you are. Believe in yourself. Bring a sense of satisfaction for what you have. Move past the thoughts of lack – of what you don’t have. Contemplate on it: Just accepting the way things are – job, work, colleagues, project, relationships, life. Just be loving, kind, and forgiving to yourself. Just forget and let it be. Just be. Accept it. Just accept. Relax into the knowing. Just affirm, “I forgive others, myself and accept the way I am. I love myself just the way I am.” Accept the showers of love and let them fill you inside. The acceptance will trigger the thoughts of self-worth. 
4. The fourth step will automatically trigger you to find reasons for what you are truly worth. Start to find the meaning in life that you have forgotten, give importance to your being. It will provide reasons for what it is like to be human: breathing, eating, seeing, and simply living. It will trigger more specific events in mind that will show your sense of self-worth in the forgotten areas of your job, talents, skills, relationships, and the subtle art of being human. Take it all in. You will start to see the beauty in your life and respect yourself. You will understand what a remarkable person you are in essence. Perhaps even wise beyond your years. Then affirm, “I am worthy of a loving, meaningful, and purpose-driven life. I am a vessel of love, light, and positivity. I am important and worthy of love.”
5.  The fifth step is the appreciation of yourself. You have been doing this all along. Feeling grateful for what you are inside and outside. The only difference is it is effortless. It comes naturally. You know you love yourself, take care of yourself – not once in a while, not weekly, not daily, but every moment. You evolve into this state of self-love with confidence, patience, compassion, and serenity. Look at your hands, hug yourself, be grateful for a loving heart. Just affirm, ” I am a peaceful soul. I am positive. I am grateful for everything and more. I am strong. I am love. I am Joy. I am brave. I am humble. I am a winner. I surrender to the Highest Good for all.”

As you play the other games and complete your other missions in life, be sure to repeat these affirmations daily. Integrate the game of self-love with other games you play.  Here is a video I prepared for your daily affirmations. Please click to play.

Self-Love: Question #6:When is the right time to start self-love? 

The right time is when you have slowed down the pace of life. If you are driving your car at 50 miles an hour and see an exit sign that you need to take, how do you start taking that exit? 

The first step is to slow down. Apply your brakes. Use it now. As soon as you apply your brakes now, you will start to feel more clarity and control of the direction. Similarly, as soon as you slow down in life, you will feel an increased sense of awareness of the object you need to love – that is you. 

So slow down now. Take a day off. Week off. Month off if you can afford it. Spend time with yourself now. Course-correct your thoughts with positive affirmations daily by starting today.

In Conclusion

Self-love is the innate power to love yourself deeply at all levels: mind, body, and soul. To invoke this power, you must be with yourself, find your worth, respect yourself, take care of yourself, protect yourself with boundaries, and have a balanced life. 

Doing so requires going through the deconditioning process of yourself: removing the false labels, titles, unconscious self-hate, low self-esteem, feeling not good enough, and floating in lower vibrations until you wake up and rise, recognize, and realize the process of self-love.

The five steps to play this game help you elevate your consciousness to that level of love. 

So slowing down right now, spending time with yourself now, and course-correcting your thoughts with positive affirmations daily can help you start the game of self-love today.

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I reached a point in my life when my interests at work, relationships, and career started to fade away. It felt unsatisfactory. I did not know what was going on. I realized that I felt comfortable being uncomfortable. But it sure was eating me inside. 

I soon started to realize that I was in a sort of comfort zone. I did have conflicts that I was avoiding. The more I avoided dealing with these conflicts, the more stressful life became. I kept drifting and still felt as if I was in control. I was limiting my joy and thought that I was in a state of content. It was an illusion. Do you feel this way?

Let us ask ourselves: Am I running away from conflicts at work, relationships, careers instead of solving them? Am I avoiding something such as a new job or transition to a new career so that I can always be in my comfort zone?

In this blog post, we’ll learn about:

1. Why is it painful to be in your comfort zone?
2. What is the definition of a comfort zone anyway?
3. How does coaching transform your comfort zone?
4. What are the 6 life lessons from the comfort zone?
5. How to come out of this comfort zone? 
6. Can we put the pieces of the ‘comfort zone puzzle’ together holistically – at a Mind, Body and Soul level?

Comfort Zone Question 1: Why is it painful to be in your comfort zone?

I was working with a client who was stressed; and binge-watching Netflix as a result. He enjoyed watching it very much. But after talking for a while, my client realized something that caused him a few breakthroughs. 

He immediately realized that he was avoiding something he always wanted to do. He was escaping from the life he wanted. He was procrastinating on the tasks and actions that he wanted to perform. But the laziness started to drown him into binge-watching Netflix. 

As the conversation moved forward, he had another breakthrough. He realized that he wanted to get up early but couldn’t. He had been sleeping late because he was watching TV until late hours. His lack or inadequate amount of sleep was another reason for stress.

Why was my client avoiding the tasks he needed to do and waking up late, sleeping late although he knew he was not going anywhere with it? Why was he repeatedly doing the same thing every day and expecting results? 

The answer is that he was in his comfort zone. When we are in our comfort zone, we tend to get lazy, procrastinate, and think our life is going well. In fact, perfect. Interestingly, when we see others getting results, we then wonder why didn’t we get that?

We get what we deserve. Thinking otherwise is a form of self-delusion.  

So we tend to avoid conflicts by escaping them and watching TV, instead of doing something about them and achieve results. How can we live our lives miserably and wrongly call it a comfort zone?

Comfort Zone Question 2. What is the definition of a comfort zone anyway?

As per Wikipedia, “A comfort zone is a psychological state in which things feel familiar to a person, and they are at ease and (perceive they are) in control of their environment, experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress. In this zone, a steady level of performance is possible.” 

Above is a great practical definition as a start. But it leaves me wondering how we can remain in our comfort zone (that we worked so hard to build in our and around our life) and at the same time feel like we don’t belong to this planet? Shouldn’t we enjoy our life’s comfort zone? 

In other words, why is life feeling more and more meaningless? Why do we feel like a square in a peg hole? That we don’t want to work a 9-5 job with a haunting on-call schedule that keeps us up most of the time. Why is life becoming fast-paced, pushing us outside our comfort zone even after our many achievements? Did you signup for this type of life only?

The answer lies in the level of your awareness to your achievements, needs, and wanting for more and more. It simply never ends. 

So we need to have a balance and perform better, live better. And better does not mean fast-paced but a steady-contented paced.

So what characteristics do we need to have in a nutshell:

To live a love-based purpose-driven life full of passion, meaning, work fewer hours each day, meditate better, feel balanced, content, spend enough time with our loved ones, have an abundance of finances, and live joyfully doing meaningful work that evolves our level of consciousness and raises the vibrations within us and that of this planet. 

Wow! Now that is my new definition of a comfort zone. That is our big dream or a new comfort zone we want. To reach this zone, we need to be willing to take the necessary steps to live a love-based life. 

Comfort Zone Question 3. How does coaching transform your Comfort Zone?

Spiritual Life coaches help you move out of your ‘old’ comfort zone and find a ‘new’ comfort zone. They empower you to course-correct and grow in your dream direction positively.  

When you reach a plateau in your comfort zone, you start to grow in victim consciousness. Your narcissist ego triggers a negative inner dialogue that leads to low self-esteem and self-sabotage. 

As you remain in this state for extended periods, you start to develop less trust around people and mostly with yourself. Your beliefs, attitudes, and behavior reflect negatively. You feel trapped in your self-created old comfort zone prison. What a soul-crushing life!

To break-free yourself from this old lifestyle, we have a Freedom Design coaching session. It helps with removing any roadblocks to your freedom and guides you towards attaining your goals, vision, and destination you are dreaming of with peace of mind. It is a mindset change that takes time as you are required to heal at various levels.

Comfort Zone Question 4. What are the 6 life lessons from the comfort zone?

Choosing to remain in your old comfort zone may come with a price. Here is a quick summary of the 6 lessons:

1. Lesson #1: Ego makes you feel in control. It gives you a false sense of pride gift-wrapped in a ‘comfort’ color paper.
2. Lesson #2: If things start to look and feel perfect without effort, it is time to change yourself.
3. Lesson #3: Hold yourself accountable for your actions all the time. It’s your life.
4. Lesson #4: You tend to feel comfortable being uncomfortable. It is a sign that you are not in alignment with your dharma or life purpose. It is time for a change.
5. Lesson #5: You start to avoid conflicts, become an escapist, and are unwilling to change. It can lead to severe consequences in the form of physical and mental illnesses.
6. Lesson #6: You start to feel bored, stressed, lazy, and out of place.

If you see such signposts, it is time to start coming out of your old comfort zone. 

Comfort Zone Question 5. How to come out of this comfort zone? 

Here are some quick ways to help you move forward:

1. Self-care: Detox your stress and fears
2. Self-love: You are here to evolve as a soul. Love helps you evolve – Love what you do by doing what you love.
3. Self-worth: Access your talents, skills, and be willing to grow. Remember that you are unique. No one is like you. You are priceless. 
4. Discover yourself by doing a lot of inner work, and outer work. Find your life purpose and do what “feels” most meaningful to you.
5. Take a hobby to the extreme – if you love journaling, try being a writer or a blogger; if you like to communicate, try being a public speaker.
6. Explore different companies and industries for the same work.
7. Explore different career options. 
8. Discover your areas of passion. Find out what you are here to do on this Earth at this time of the century. Is the career conventional or unconventional? Will it matter if this was your last reincarnation on Earth?

It is a puzzle, a mystery to solve, in all honesty. Things will unfold in due time and with a lot of effort and soul searching. 

Comfort Zone Question 6. Can we put the pieces of the ‘comfort zone puzzle’ together holistically – at a Mind, Body and Soul level?

There are many lessons to learn when: you are in a comfort zone, remain in your old comfort zone, or want to create a new comfort zone. The old comfort zone is a perfect place to rest and nest “against” our soul plan. 

“Old Comfort zones are puzzling as it clouds your vision, restricts you from your passion, and hampers your ability to take actions that lead you to a better and brighter future-you. It restricts your growth potential. The more you stay in your old comfort zone, the more unclear your life becomes moving forward. Try moving out of your way by removing the roadblocks that prevent you from finding your passion. Then move into your new comfort zone.”

Manprit Suri

The primary reason for our soul is to evolve. It evolves by learning life lessons – which is a bitter way to evolution. Once it reaches a tipping point, that is, when it has learned the lessons in its comfort zone, the soul wants to further evolve, instead of continuing to rest. The desire to rest is coming from the ego-mind. It doesn’t want the soul to evolve. It wants to keep it confined in that old comfort zone illusionary prison. 

When this happens, we start to lose our power since the force of our ego is in control. But you are still learning lessons on powerlessness. 

This fight between the soul and ego creates friction that causes various symptoms such as anxiety, fear, depression. It dips you in those oceans of lower vibrations. Here you learn the lessons of fear: fear of failure and fear of future causing procrastination. It is where your perfectionism lessons boil up to the surface. 

Perfectionism is a negative quality as you want a perfect life from an ego-mind which is an illusion. You cannot be confined to prison and feel good. So you cannot understand the calling of the soul. It is a mind trap. But you are learning the lesson of powerlessness, perfectionism, fear of failure, and procrastination as a result. 

Your mission is to snap out of it but don’t know-how due to emotional issues, attitudes, behaviors, and limiting beliefs. Your thoughts are also prisoned and are inside a mental ego box. 

So this imprisonment backfires by creating an urge to be free. Free from all this misery. Free from these blocks. Unless these blocks are freed, you cannot look clearly at the end of the tunnel. But what is at the end of the tunnel? What do you need to be free from? 

At the end of the tunnel is your soul – waiting for you to come out of your old comfort zone. It is calling you. To answer the calling of your soul, you follow the bread crumbs that it has already placed before. What are those bread crumbs?

When you reach the tipping point in your life, your feelings of meaninglessness and loss are one of the many first steps.

When you start to reason why this is happening, it is your next step.

Willing to finding answers to how am I and why am I here, what’s my passion, my purpose, and how I can achieve my big dreams; the next. 

The purpose behind coaching is to pull you out and clear of your tunnel and free it from the mental, social, and belief factors. It is the process of inner healing and emptying the cup. Doing so helps you see your vision clearly, and navigate the muddy waters of your life that became polluted while learning the various life lessons. 

It is a cleansing stage – where you start to increase your spiritual awareness and awaken spiritually. To trust the universe more, become bolder, and break free from unwanted conditioned desires.  

As you break free, you realize the game of life more clearly. You start to integrate the various spiritual lessons of letting go, trust, gratitude, being an authentic version of yourself, and continue to the high road like a hero, warrior, or an awakened person.

By this time, if you are trying to find a perfect time, date, place, career, then you’ll realize that nothing is perfect here now. You are to again move into a job for a short while, learn some lessons and then find new ones. But this play starts to become a little boring as an old soul. 

So you want to quit this world with a bang by being famous or even being of service to others. Whatever satisfies your soul. So you may start to teach people from your wisdom. 

One may start to coach others on navigating their life better – who are struggling in this 3-dimensional world. Perhaps teach how to do things that they love and are passionate with. You come out of your old comfort zone closet and move into your growing new comfort zone!

If you are in your same zone for some time, there is no willingness to move out of it due to resistance. It is because of the fear of failure and the thoughts that life is perfect when it is not. You are simply less willing to move forward in life. It is mere laziness. 

So does moving forward means more title and power? Moving forward does not mean more title and power. That should never be an aim as it is an ego playground with its sweet rewards.  

But if you are doing something out of love, passion, and compassion, then the success, titles, and fame runs after you. And, that’s the way to roll. It is the stage where you are in service to humanity and for the highest good for all. It is a reward from the higher consciousness and universal consciousness. 

Being of service is the highest form of achievement. Soul growth and evolution do not reside in the old comfort zone but a ‘new’ comfort zone.

In Conclusion

There is no conclusion to this ever-evolving and puzzling comfort zone riddle. If you feel uncomfortable being in an old comfort zone, then it’s time to move out of your fear-based life. To move into a love-based life, a new comfort zone is the next step.

If you feel comfortable being in a new comfort zone, stay there and willingly enjoy learning, reasoning, and fulfilling your big dreams, goals, and being of service to the highest good for all. Therein lies the answer to your passion and desire for a meaningful, purpose-driven love-based life. Live comfortably with a growth mindset.

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All old souls are struggling with the spiritual lesson of perfectionism. All Virgos are said to be a perfectionist. Starseeds, Lightworkers, INFJs, and even Enneagram type I are all said to be perfectionists.

I have always tried to be perfect in everything. I always felt a sense of pride in calling myself a perfectionist.

I wondered if: I should be earning this certification in 3 years? I should be in this career or be promoted in 1 year? I should have an A or a 100 score in a game?

I further thought: can I live a more meaningful, balanced, and peaceful life now and not hurry with unrealistic timeframes?

I was starting to realize that I was running after material things and creating lower vibrations of fear, guilt, shame, and procrastination. I was awakening to realize that I was learning to understand my imperfections rather than being perfect.

Furthermore, what I thought to be “my” perfect timings with things whether it be events, projects or incidents were synchronicities in my destiny.

Upon shifting my perspective on what a perfect life entails, I had an awakening to a different meaning of perfectionism. This post has my 6 spiritual lessons on perfectionism:

1. Enjoying the journey of being human
2. Self-Love and Compassion
3. Surrender to the flow
4. Be willing and forgiving
5. Realizing repeated patterns of imperfections
6. Waking up to the purpose of human life

Spiritual lesson on Perfectionism #1: Enjoying the journey of being human

It is good to have goals. It is great to have a vision board to accomplish those goals.

But our goal or destination is not the only thing important. It is the journey that is more important. 

Destination in this case is in being a perfect human being or being the best-awakened version of yourself.

The journey, however, involves learning more life lessons to achieve that level of perfection. What more life lessons do we learn during the journey of being a perfect soul? 

Spiritual Lesson on Perfectionism #2: Self-Love and Compassion

Compassion means loving ourselves when we are unable to achieve a certain task or even get to the goal at times. Self-compassion is a way to speak to our soul and connect with our inner guidance during difficult times of our lives. 

With compassion for ourselves, we cultivate a power full of love. This strengthens and helps us put in more effort without feeling defeated or depressed. This in turn gives way to the inner strength that fuels our vision towards success.

All the more, you feel an energetic push from the divine in the form of grace. 

When I felt a lot of negative emotions, I used to play the blame game towards my circumstances, people, and environment. To top it off, I then waited for His grace to fall on my lap.

This was an imperfect way of fighting the ego-mind. Why? A more loving heart full of compassion for yourself is required to extinguish the fire of negativity.

With self-love and compassion, you become a reservoir for His grace and the equation becomes perfect!

Spiritual Lesson on Perfectionism #3: Surrender to the flow

The problems in our lives start to occur when we start to resist. When we need more help and guidance, we need to put in our best effort and then open our arms and surrender to the flow of events. 

Instead, we resist by putting our minds into a negative thought pattern. How? By saying, “we cannot make it to the finish line” or “we don’t deserve this” or something along these lines. We start to develop victim consciousness.

Passing negative judgments about ourselves is comparable to closing our arms and stopping ourselves from receiving the divine grace and everything else that comes along with it in the form of blessings, resources, support, help, and everything positive. 

When we truly learn the art of surrender, the universe brings a lot of abundance and wealth into our lives. This system of giving from the universe is perfect only if you stop resisting and truly surrender.

Spiritual Lesson on Perfectionism #4: Be willing and forgiving

So what should be the first step? Be willing. Be willing to be willing. Be willing to receive from the universe all the resources, support, and divine grace. How can one be willing to do so? 

The answer is forgiveness. Forgive yourself if you cannot attain a goal and or failed miserably. Just learn to forgive yourself for the failures. Just be willing to learn from them and move on. 

When I failed in my endeavors, I would simply shrink inside with some sort of guilt for not being perfect. After I started forgiving myself by repeating positive affirmations and saying to myself: I am a perfect soul and I am love; I started to have a breakthrough.

This gave me hope and willpower to forgive, forget and move forward in life. So be willing to forgive yourself and move on. 

Perhaps it was not meant to happen and for good reasons. It is important what you learned from it. Perhaps, assess the skill level, knowledge level, time duration, intention, attention, and resources required to accomplish that goal.

Just course correct and find another goal and move on. Stop saying that you are not worth it or not perfect.

Think of it as a great learning lesson for the next time. Willingly accept defeat only to rise again to try again with fewer imperfections than before!

Spiritual Lesson on Perfectionism #5: Realizing repeated patterns of imperfections

If you see repeated patterns of failure, then there is a possibility that success is not a requirement. But the journey you are traveling is – an important lesson I easily missed in my life before!

You may be required to go through this journey and the lesson was not to be perfect but to see what happens when you are trying to be imperfect. 

When we are in a repeated pattern of failure, we are simply being allowed to learn those lessons that we are trying to master in this life. It is a mark of a courageous soul on its Hero’s journey.

So if you learned all the lessons from experiencing what it feels to be in an imperfect journey, then you have completely perfected your lesson! 

Spiritual Lesson on Perfectionism #6: Waking up to the purpose of human life

The purpose of human life is to expand our level of consciousness through different life lessons and merge back to the universal consciousness.

If we were perfect, we wouldn’t be growing consciously and spiritually through these life lessons. So we are on a perfectly imperfect journey.

To wake up to your highest purpose in life involves waking up your soul. Waking up spiritually.

Spiritual awakening can occur when you have a high probability of perfecting your lessons in your lowest vibrational frequencies. 

By perfectly hitting your consciousness from rock bottom or ground zero, you’ll experience a quantum shift and leap in your level of consciousness to new heights.

It is a perfectly orchestrated lesson plan by the Source to bring us back to our true home – the land of a perfectionist.

In Conclusion

Being a perfectionist does not involve running after material things that inflate our ego and force us to create lower vibrations of fear, guilt, shame, and procrastination.

A perfectionist being is one who is the best-awakened version of himself.

This requires learning 6 spiritual lessons: understanding how to enjoy the journey of being human, cultivating within a power full of self-love and compassion to become the reservoir of His grace, learning to stop resisting and truly surrender, willing to forgive oneself and move on, courageously recognizing your repeated patterns of imperfections and spiritually waking up to recognize the purpose of human life. 

Traveling through this Hero’s journey, a perfectly orchestrated lesson plan by the Source to bring us back to our true home – the land of a perfectionist, is the mark and work of a perfect, loving, and courageous soul! You! 

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